SWEET TEA

Monday, March 11, 2013

The stakes rise!


Sweet Granddoll, Haylee Kate!
She and her Mom are scheduled to come home from the hospital tomorrow, a week after this hospital stay began.  They are both doing well now.  Her Mom had a second blood patch yesterday and it seems to be holding.

NOW - more stress!
The baby daddy, his mom, and his sister have been in town all week.
His Mom is not to be trusted and we've known that.
Today she shows up in little Mama's room declaring that she has made arrangements for a paternity test and that she wants shared custody of the baby for her son.  Little Mama called me hysterical.  She and Baby Daddy have an agreement on how they want this to happen and have already talked with a social worker about this.  Now, the other Grandmother (his Mom) steps in and says if Baby Daddy doesn't comply with her wishes she will begin to charge him room & board, etc. etc. and he will not be able to go to college.  Manipulation is her game.
My husband is enroute to the hospital and has called our attorney.

I can't tell you how glad I will be when Baby Daddy and his family go back home - 4 hours away.
Little Mama and Baby Daddy have agreed that Li'l Mama will have custody but that he can come here to visit Haylee anytime he wants, and he will continue with his college plans.

His mom is a "Snake".
Forgive me, but she is.

We'd love to have your prayers
on this issue.

29 comments:

Mari said...

Aaagh! Why do people have to act that way. That's a fine way to support your son. Praying...
PS - What an absolutely adorable baby!

Terra said...

Oh, that additional stress is just too awful, when you need and want to concentrate on the fabulous new baby and the baby mama healing. It's good you have an attorney. Sometimes I pray for angry or troubled people (the baby daddy's mom), that they find a better path, and that is helpful.

Jane said...

Do I need to come whoop up some Northside on that woman's head? I will, you know.

Prayers to you all, Debbie.

Idyll Wild said...

That "lady" can try to cause trouble all she wants. She may make a few waves, but there isn't a universe in existance where she would be awarded custody.

Nonnie said...

Dear God, who knows every detail. We are earnestly pleading in behalf of all the Cavitt family and asking for your mercy on them in this time of need. And thanking You now for what You are doing.

Nonnie said...

And I'm with Idyll Wild and Jane.

NanaDiana said...

I could think of a lot of other words to apply to his Mom. I will pray for you- it is such a nasty thing to have happen-especially with all the emotions that go along with having a newborn to begin with. Keep us posted- xo Diana

Cheri said...

Oh my goodness that is horrible. I hope it all works out without Baby Daddy's mom in the mix.

Joy@aVintageGreen said...

Prayers for you all, especially for your precious granddaughter and her precious mama.
Joy

Joyce said...

Oh goodness. I will pray for all of you!

Sush said...

Prayers being said...unmentionable words spoken in my head!
Hang in there!
Hugs~

Rhona said...

Glad you'll have them home tomorrow where you can watch over them. As if you haven't had enough on your plate recently. Hope they're going home soon, for your sake. Will add you to my prayers :) xx

Debby@Just Breathe said...

So sorry to hear about that. I will be praying.....

Linda said...

Good grief! You can't seem to catch a break these days! I doubt that other 'grandmother' has a leg to stand on. In Texas I know for a fact she wouldn't. Not sure about LA. My friend is a grandmother to a beautiful girl with a situation much like yours. Only she is the mother of the son. He pays child support and my friend has been very good to the mother of her granddaughter so she CAN see her. Prayers that it all works out. You know it will! It is just so stressful while it's BEING worked out!

Skoots1moM said...

have friends who have been through the same...in our state, the grandparents don't have that kind of power...will begin to pray for you and yours...it's a tough road...grandgirl is BEAUTIFUL!

Jeanie said...

OMG..."snake" is too nice a word for that woman. How awful that she would come in and address those issues with your daughter while she is healing in the hospital. I pray that she will see the error of her ways very soon.

yaya said...

Oh my, why do parents have to try and control all aspects of their children's lives? That lady is psycho for sure. Let them (the new mommy and daddy) decide, let them be grownups as they are now parents themselves. She will only hurt her relationship with her son. Sending lots of prayers out for your family. That little baby is adorable!

Susan said...

You guys have had a rough couple of years. Praying for you all. Seems like I remember some drama with this other mother in the past. Hang in there. God knows what is needed and you have some prayer warriors on your side.

Mid-Atlantic Martha said...

What a beautiful little sweetie! It's too bad that other grandmother isn't working on how she can be helpful to your daughter and cooperative and thinking about what's best for her granddaughter. Trying to be a good part of her life rather than acting so nasty that nobody trusts her.....I guess some people just can't help showing their backsides in all situations.

Delena said...

Surely this other grandma is acting irrationally at this time and hopefully she will stop to consider what a stressful time this is for all of you when it should be a very happy time. Good luck and hope everyone stays physically and mentally healthy through all of this!

nancygrayce said...

Praying for this oh, so difficult situation! I pray that mother will come to understand that she is alienating her son and her granddaughter,.....I'm thankful your daughter is doing better and will be safely at home tomorrow!

Wonder if she has given a thought to the fact that she is also alienating you and that she might regret that when she wants to visit in your home....God will work this all out for good!

Teresa said...

Oh I so know what you are going through. Had some stress over a situation kinda like this in our house with my youngest. That Grandchild will soon be 4 and things still get rocky at times. You and I could do lunch. Just breath and pray.

Shirley Sue said...

My prayers for all of you. But also prayers that something can be worked out. I've been in the same position as the "snake". The thought of having a grandchild and never being able to see it, can be devastating. Thank you Jesus! It worked out for us without having to go through legalities. Imagine what you would do if the situation was reversed. Would you be so nice?

STILLMAGNOLIA said...

praying for you all. This can be a very trying and stressful time. I hate you are having to go through it.

Marsha @Spots and Wrinkles said...

This is so scary - and not all that uncommon these days. My neice went through something similar a few years ago. It all turned out ok, but was sure stressful for several months.

Praying for you, your daughter and the baby.

Sandra said...

How scary. I'm praying for you all.

And what a beautiful baby girl.

karen said...

Yep, I agree with Idyll Wild. She doesn't stand a chance, and she could find herself on the bad end of a restraining order if she's not careful. Crazy lady should know she'd catch more flies with honey, but some people never learn. Luckily it seems that Baby Daddy and your daughter have good heads and have thought out a good plan. Good luck. She is a gorgeous little baby!

Madi and Mom said...

OH MY WORD....what in the world is her problem? Right now everyone needs to surround Baby and Mom with a ton of positive vibes. Spewing venom is not helpful.
She is obviously in need of some counseling.
Lots of prayers are coming your way.
Hugs madi and Mom

Chatty Crone said...

I think that is so ridiculous - I am so sorry - prayers for sure and let us know what happens.

sandie

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