Wednesday, September 1, 2010


Got any prejudicial blood
in "them thar" veins?
Are you equally drawn to a slim person as to one who is over-weight?

Got any really good friends who are a different color than you are?

Whom would you choose to hang out with?  A cute, young woman who was a bit on the boring side...
an older woman who was funny and interesting.

When going to a movie would you be as inclined to invite a friend who is in a wheelchair as to a friend who is not in a wheelchair?

Do you prefer that your friends have the same religious beliefs as you do?
Could you be an equally good friend with
An Atheist?
A Muslim?
A Baptist?

Do most of your friends have the same amount of education?

Got any friends who have a lot MORE money or a lot LESS money than you?

It seems to me that we are all drawn to people who are much like we are.
"Same drawn to same".
I'm not sure why it is.
Maybe is has something to do with
our personal "Comfort Zone".
Perhaps it's simply a matter of convenience.
Is it possible it has absolutely nothing
to do with being prejudice? Or does it?

What do you think?

No need for any embarassement
as I accept anonymous comments too.


Parsley said...

I'm really okay with anyone who ACTS decent. I've had friends of different race and religion. No issues when there is a genuine respect for the individual.

Attraction....we all have our prejudices there. What we are drawn to find the love of our life...I think that kind of prejudice is okay.

Unknown said...

It is funny how we can up with almost identical thoughts for our posts today.

I have friends that are a lot like me and a lot different than I am. One of my good friends is Korean and I love her to pieces because she calls me her sister. I get her and she gets me. We come from two different walks of life, yet we have a friendship.

I have a guy crush at the moment and he is White. He makes my heart pound pretty fast when I think of him. I would want nothing more than for him and I to be more than friends. I look at the sweet, funny, Christian man that I am drawn to and fall head over heels.

I don't believe that like is drawn to like.

Terra said...

You are very right about us sometimes preferring a comfort zone of people like us. That is too boring, and I treasure my younger friends and my older friends, and a whole range of people. This post is great to think about. My one thing in common that each of my friends has is kindness, a great virtue.

Mimi said...

One of my main weaknesses is judging people negatively somtimes on sight.

Thanks for the reminder.

Hugs & love,

Mary said...

That goes right along with last Sunday's homily about Luke 14:1,7-14! Thanks for a mid-week reminder!

Beth J said...

When I was in college, one of the psychology professors talked about the fact that we are drawn to people who "space" themselves to other people in the same way that we space ourselves from others. Very interesting when you think about this. And it's true. One of the few lectures that I actually remember from 30 years ago...

Robin said...

I used to be very prejudiced....not about race, but more about "first impressions" of people. But the years of working as a nurse, I've found that there is always "more to the story". I've made some really great friends by just getting to know the person behind the persona.


Susan said...

Likes do attract, but I've never been "like the other kids", so I'm not a very good friend to begin with. I've worked and gotten along with folks that I wouldn't hang out with socially. I recently met(for the first time) a youngish girl (30) that everyone else LOVES but was put off immediately. Know what she did? She tried to kiss me on the mouth. Race, religion, fat, skinny, gay, straight not a problem. But if a person who doesn't know me invades my personal space, I probably wont be asking you to my home. But hey, that's just me.


I grew up in south Florida and therefore my friends are from all walks of life. My first date was with a little boy named Jose...he was from Cuba and a refugee of the Cuban Missile Crisis. I have friends who are very well off, not so, and middle of the road. I am a people lover....period. I judge you by who you are...not what....but even with that...I still have some prejudices....it is human nature.

Unknown said...

very thought provoking post! I have a wide range of friends from young to old, white brown, rich poor, baptist to catholic,they all bring something unique and comforting to the table, my table and I am a better person for knowing each any everyone of them

Unknown said...

It just seems easier when you're similar. That said, life can get boring when all the people around you are just like you. Like they say, variety is the spice of life.

Kelli said...

WOW! You're a deep thinker today! ;)
I like to think that I have an open mind when it comes to race, religion, etc. I have friends from all walks of life, but I have to say that my close friends are probably more like me. Is it prejudice? I don't think so. It is more a matter of convenience. I'm in an area that isn't terribly diverse and I'm a SAHM who gets to meet parents who are much like myself. It's just the way it works out.

As for attraction...I'm not sure there's any explaining it. It just happens. I've always been attracted to tall, tanned and toned; a genuine laugh; bedroom eyes; nice hands. It isn't something I think about, just something I feel. (But just for the record, the man I married is NOT tall, not tanned and not particularly toned. Go figure.) LOL!

Relyn Lawson said...

Very interesting and brave post. I like people who want to think. And who make me think. Yes, I have friends very different from me. And, no, I can honestly say I've never had a friend (or a boyfriend) based on looks. How did I escape that? I have no idea? But I am grateful for it. I am.

Mary said...

Are you okay? I noticed you haven't posted anything in a while: I miss you! I'm hoping everything is okay and you're just busy with homeschool stuff.


I left you some questions on my site....I am curious as to how you will answer.

Anonymous said...

I was reading your blog about your daughter. Some kids have worse teen years than others. There is nothing wrong with her. I am glad you are such caring mother who stepped in when it was time to about public school. Not all teen girls have an as easy time as others. Just be there for her and she will be just fine.

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