tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post624999052420531285..comments2023-10-28T06:49:47.087-05:00Comments on SWEET TEA: Letting go.Sweet Teahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15614958513434632328noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-29151152668924283742011-08-16T07:10:28.578-05:002011-08-16T07:10:28.578-05:00That's a hard thing. At least, you live in di...That's a hard thing. At least, you live in different states and don't have to see her very often. Good luck and thanks for sharing your heart.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10641059685087617173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-68975436843140742792011-08-16T06:18:57.274-05:002011-08-16T06:18:57.274-05:00Yep, been there.. and I think we all have at one ...Yep, been there.. and I think we all have at one time or another.. often there comes a time to go separate ways..Bobbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13188253296229794880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-61755721351829718692011-08-16T00:11:41.863-05:002011-08-16T00:11:41.863-05:00I had someone that was like a sister to me, for a ...I had someone that was like a sister to me, for a moment until she began to make me feel smothered. She didn't see herself as much as I tried to share from my heart and not hurt her feelings. I wrote her a goodbye letter (email) and bravely hit send. She countered that one with a retort but instead of me going back and forth, I decided not to respond back. She found me on FB and I added her for a moment and then deleted her. I just felt that we had just grown apart.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04459265311205890622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-60133144584583756072011-08-15T22:42:06.448-05:002011-08-15T22:42:06.448-05:00Rick Warren calls these people "EGR's&quo...Rick Warren calls these people "EGR's" (extra grace required). God, in His gracious, loving way has shown me, through relationships like the one you're describing, that occasionally I have been guilty of the same type of behavior. Because of that, I have learned how to deal with them.<br /><br />I have found that writing a letter is a great way to let that person go. I've poured out my heart, and angst, and anger ... and then let it sit for a day or two. And then prayed some more. And then gone back and looked at it and pulled out the things that would fit into Philippians 4:8 and Ephesians 4:15, and lovingly, crafted a note to my former friend.<br /><br />If someone who cares about them never tells them the problem, they will never learn and live a very sad life.<br /><br />Just my .02SouthLakesMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08822510653198676631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-52720055654175922762011-08-15T20:19:27.722-05:002011-08-15T20:19:27.722-05:00Yep, I'm in a friendship like that. I have a ...Yep, I'm in a friendship like that. I have a very needy friend. I have pulled back but not entirely. I have told her that I dread seeing her name on caller i.d. hoping that she will understand that I just can't be her dr., lawyer or mama. <br /><br />Friendship is like any other relationship, it can't thrive unless both parties are healthy.nancygraycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05288996419936475583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-78141643808796753292011-08-15T18:55:45.557-05:002011-08-15T18:55:45.557-05:00Life is too short to cultivate a toxic friendship....Life is too short to cultivate a toxic friendship. You will be far better off in the long run by doing what you know in your heart is right for you.Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04810126999695733332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-5809011130906213032011-08-15T17:26:36.777-05:002011-08-15T17:26:36.777-05:00Yep and it is not fun dealing with it either.Yep and it is not fun dealing with it either.STILLMAGNOLIAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07453175923858351452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-14700539185489769342011-08-15T15:42:12.814-05:002011-08-15T15:42:12.814-05:00I have had this EXACT situation happen to me (and ...I have had this EXACT situation happen to me (and is still currently happening to me). My so called "friend" is there for me when I am down to comfort me but when I start feeling better my friend just makes me feel worse. We have been friends for as long as I can remember and no matter where I move my friend keeps following me. My friend and I have had many battles over the years and yet we have stuck it out even though I wish I would never see my friend again. My friend, who I SO wish would just GO AWAY, is chocolate ;PRitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11693711236006770329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-78928387379714643382011-08-15T15:42:04.044-05:002011-08-15T15:42:04.044-05:00Yes, I've "been there, done that" wi...Yes, I've "been there, done that" with a friend also. Sometimes it's for our own mental health that we step back. Once it was because my friend and I really just outgrew our relationship..she never married, no children, etc..lives just going in different directions. We wished each other well, and that was that! Do what you need too and you'll feel so much better.yayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12047536332780197024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-18729104838982140272011-08-15T15:27:06.292-05:002011-08-15T15:27:06.292-05:00I am in this situation now - and it is a dilemma -...I am in this situation now - and it is a dilemma - it's not easy - but know you are NOT a lone!Chatty Cronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232040517217024681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-17123667784336404682011-08-15T14:33:37.115-05:002011-08-15T14:33:37.115-05:00In a word yes. We solved it by moving overseas : ...In a word yes. We solved it by moving overseas : ) Seriously, that did the trick. We're in touch occasionally but are no longer in the same town upon moving back so that helps enormously. It's hard. I wouldn't want to be unkind but maybe you can keep putting her off in her request for lunch and she'll get the hint? <br /><br />Thank you for your kind thoughts regarding my niece.Joycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16727615822243830106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-18773346303600855712011-08-15T13:43:34.462-05:002011-08-15T13:43:34.462-05:00Yes I have been in the same posiiton. I don't...Yes I have been in the same posiiton. I don't like to be manipulated nor would I manipulate.<br />A friendship is supposed to be a safe place. How dare she draw your hubby into this? Each time you see that person you should feel like you have come home. It should not be hard ...yes it is time to move on. People grow and change and that has happened. I send you my best for a painless resolution.<br />Hugs CMy Mind's Eyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12014097754516123017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-38453584462781189022011-08-15T13:06:43.264-05:002011-08-15T13:06:43.264-05:00I'm so sorry!! I understand cause I have had t...I'm so sorry!! I understand cause I have had to do the same thing. Right around this past Christmas, in fact. I wrote about it here: http://ourlifesjourney02.blogspot.com/2010/11/closing-chapter.html<br /><br />It was difficult, but it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be as I had already had it set in my mind a month or do prior. I was just "waiting" to see if I was overreacting when in doubt, I wasn't. <br /><br />So, here's to a new chapter!! May you have much happiness!!! HUGSKimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02487298990901843807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-54775848999704207302011-08-15T12:49:19.744-05:002011-08-15T12:49:19.744-05:00I agree with all these ladies...most of us have be...I agree with all these ladies...most of us have been there at one time or another and you have to do what is right for you. As hard as it is, maybe you should communicate with her (whatever way makes you feel comfortable) and let her know that this friendship is not working for you...it will be painful for both of you but she deserves to know and you deserve to not have the texts, emails and phone calls...that can get stressful. As my daughter always tells me....just rip the bandaid off. Good luck.Cherihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09053437978238382870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-15090913393951611072011-08-15T12:09:32.822-05:002011-08-15T12:09:32.822-05:00Go with your gut and do what makes you happy becau...Go with your gut and do what makes you happy because you are the one that has to live with the decisions you make. I have been in this situation before... and I know that no one likes to loose a friend but if that friendship makes you unhappy then it is not a good relationship to waste you time and effort on. <br /><br />Hugs... I know it is difficult and I wish you the best!Amyhttp://thevintagevisionary.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-44387047722870885052011-08-15T11:45:03.092-05:002011-08-15T11:45:03.092-05:00Oh, yes. Just out of curiosity, is she an only ch...Oh, yes. Just out of curiosity, is she an only child? I have found that those are the toughest relationships. These people are so used to "getting" that they don't know how to "give". I realized a long time ago that I was her best friend but she wasn't mine. I moved far away from all my friends so she doesn't need me now. Time to let go. It's kind of a relief actually.<br /><br />Give yourself permission to think of your needs first this time.Just Stuff From a Boomerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13440903695801765867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-36122473566125774502011-08-15T11:41:37.963-05:002011-08-15T11:41:37.963-05:00I think most of us have been there done that at so...I think most of us have been there done that at some point. Only you can know what is best for you...and it sounds like you do know. Gracious endings are hoped for, but if only you can be the gracious one...you've done your best.<br /><br />Hugs for being honest and brave~Sushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00098871743806383324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-42570900592125686132011-08-15T11:37:00.440-05:002011-08-15T11:37:00.440-05:00It's never easy when a friendship ends, but so...It's never easy when a friendship ends, but sometimes it is necessary. A friendship should bring you joy and great memories, not stress or sadness. Follow your heart and allow the people in it who build you up...not bring you down. I wish you all the best. Sending hugs...<br /><br />Blessings,<br />JillJillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14904921240840944999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-7378037999361436382011-08-15T11:19:10.117-05:002011-08-15T11:19:10.117-05:00Always an uncomfortable problem.
You brought back...Always an uncomfortable problem.<br /><br />You brought back memories similar to your current post. I love call display, that helped. Finally I said NO I Can not..to her face since she was local - turned out she was just a user - wanted, wanted, wanted (stuff, time) and never a giver (listening, sharing back etc.) and finally she faded out, although a tiny shadow remains, but without any contact so that was a relief.<br />- JoyJoy@aVintageGreenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16788328980114729976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-83961816743717844212011-08-15T11:09:49.589-05:002011-08-15T11:09:49.589-05:00You're doing what's right for you, and if ...You're doing what's right for you, and if you don't do that, who will? That's the attitude I finally had to take regarding several relationships in my life over the last couple of years. I have always had the tendency to be....well, as my daughters put it, 'too nice'. I allow people to use me, walk on me, wipe their nasty feet on me, etc. Always have. But I've been making changes and putting an end to it. No more accepting the unacceptable. I'm standing up for myself the best way I know how. Not through confrontation (I'm not good with confrontation) but by simply staying away from the people/situations that make me sad/angry/hurt/miserable. It's working for me. Hope it does for you, too. (((hugs)))KTWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03709756075367058704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-33076745744348610292011-08-15T10:50:58.179-05:002011-08-15T10:50:58.179-05:00Ohhh I know just what you're talking about! I...Ohhh I know just what you're talking about! I've been there, and even though the relationship is a bit toxic, it's still painful to let go for some reason. At least I always felt like if I tried a little harder I could fix it. But I couldn't and it just ended up causing me more pain. Let it go. Hope all goes well.karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16313237142656662148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-87630594136397097972011-08-15T09:48:56.436-05:002011-08-15T09:48:56.436-05:00I'm in a situation just like that right now an...I'm in a situation just like that right now and I spent some time praying about it this very morning. Mine is very similar, but it's even more difficult because this person is family. I don't know what the right thing to do is. All I do know is that if I weren't related to this person, I'd never choose to be around her.<br /><br />{{hugs}} I know how difficult this is. I'll be thinking of you and wondering how things went.Aloha Acreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12742578062908987174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923368625647031806.post-18090924782740535832011-08-15T09:01:12.937-05:002011-08-15T09:01:12.937-05:00Good Morning Sweetie...
I know right where you are...Good Morning Sweetie...<br />I know right where you are at. I had a friend like that as well. She was literally smothering me, and I finally had to cut the strings and walk away. I couldn't enjoy my other friendships, she wouldn't allow it. <br /><br />You are so smart to walk away. Sometimes we lose a big part of ourselves trying to mend and hold onto something that is really making us ill in the long run. Let the sun shine in your heart sweet friend. Enjoy life.<br /><br />A beautiful write this morning from your heart. I love it. Thank you for sharing. Country hugs and much love, SherryCountry Wings in Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02665526569698123576noreply@blogger.com